“A hero is someone who gives without thought of himself. Thankfully, I had a father who never hesitated to give all of himself. You are my inspiration.”
When Ranbir Kapoor said ” No complaints no demand” the picture of our fathers appeared in front of our eyes.
Dad is a beautiful word that has a special place in our hearts. Everybody’s papa is his/her hero. In the Indian context, Dads are seen as men of few words, who fulfil their responsibilities but are quite hesitant in sharing their feelings with family members. They project the image of being a strong man who is the guardian of the family. Our patriarchal set-up has trained men to act in a certain way wherein being emotional and crying in front of others makes men less manly. We can’t blame our fathers for acting the way they do, we have to understand that they are product of certain socio-historical cultures.
No matter what may be the circumstances of life, “Papa is always with you” is a line that can make everything fine as he is a strong pillar in our life that always gives us strength to move forward. Just his smile can give us a hope that we will carry with ourselves for our whole life.
Not every father is the same. Often, as we grow up, generation gap starts to become visible wherein sometimes we fail to understand our father’s perspective and he appears as this big man who wants everything according to his wishes. You will agree with me right here! But always remember that just sitting down with a cup of tea with papa and conversing with him can solve every problem. Your father has done every bit in his capacity to raise you into this wonderful human being that you are today and never ever forget this in your life!
In this era of social media, we have become too engrossed in our digital lives. It is my humble request to all the readers reading this that your father just needs your precious time; he wants to be a part of your life. He still smiles seeing your childhood pictures wondering how rapidly time passes. Just sit down with him and ask him “How are you papa?”, ask him what his dreams were growing up and what he has learned from life.
There are many ways in which we can pay tribute to our fathers; it depends on your individual creativity. You can prepare a beautiful card for him or cook his favourite meal. Papa also needs that affirmation that you are always with him, that in his old age, you will be his support.
This COVID pandemic has made us realised the importance of our family in our life. Life is very small to have regrets. So don’t hold yourself back and do everything for your papa that you want to do. See him as an individual and not just as a parental entity.
The values that a father imbibes in his or her child remain with him/her forever; practice those moral lessons every day in your life. Gratitude can be expressed in very small and mundane things of life, for example, saying bye to your papa before leaving for school or workplace, saying thank you to him for his presence in your life.
For those who miss their father, I want to say that losing a father is an unbearable loss; it is as if, a part of you has died with him. But you also know that he is always with you as his life inspires you till date and you draw important life lessons from him. To pay a tribute to him, you can wear his favourite suit or shirt and go to his favourite restaurant with your loved one because remembering him as he is a part of you and you live him every day can sooth your soul.
Embrace the memories you have with your dad. In these tough times, memories are a cushion of relief that can provide you hope to strive for the best! Remember, he is the biggest cheerleader of yours in life!
I want to quote a poem here that is very close to my heart by Karen K Boyer titled Silent, Strong Dad:
He never looks for praises.
He’s never one to boast.
He just goes on quietly working
for those he loves the most.
His dreams are seldom spoken.
His wants are very few,
And most of the time his worries
Will go unspoken, too.
He’s there…a firm foundation
Through all our storms of life,
A sturdy hand to hold onto
In times of stress and strife.
A true friend we can turn to
when times are good or bad.
One of our greatest blessings,
The man that we call Dad.
I will conclude by saying that “Go to your papa right now and hug him tightly”; he deserves this big hug of yours. I understand it’s not as simple as it seems to be. I wish we could easily do that like we used to do when we were small kids but now it sometimes seems like a big taboo. Well, that’s how things are.
Make him know how you feel about him as expressing your love to your loved ones is very important. Ask him where he wants to go for a holiday, what he wants to do once he retires and how was his life in college, the list of questions can go on. This might be just a small act for you but it matters a lot to our beloved father who selflessly works and connects the whole family together. We all love our father the most, isn’t it? This is a sign that you should express how you feel and exchange emotions by a perfect chit chat between a child and a father . I love you papa always and forever. Thank you for always being there
WRITTEN BY : Ishika Chaudhary and Aashika jain